Oct
27

NOBODY is "perfect"
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I think this video is important  to remind people every now and then that NO ONE is "perfect."

We all have flaws that make us UNIQUE, NOT imperfect.

Everyone is beautiful in some way.  Even if you yourself don't consider it to be beautiful

someone else in the world does.



Girls (and guys) write me all the time telling me they wish they were me, and that I'm perfect.

In complete honesty, this breaks my heart.

It's hard to be comfortable in your own skin, especially with how hard the world is on people

these days.


I get called every possible dirty name you can think of, and in just about every language as

well!


A huge question I get asked is how I deal with the hate.

I simply DON'T accept it.

I don't give the haters the joy of seeing me get upset and hurt (in internet words "trolled"

hehe) by their nasty words.

I remind myself that what they are saying are WORDS. Just like "I love you" and "hi"

Take a few minutes to clear your head of what they said, and think of positive things,

and compliments people have given to you.

If you see someone that you think is pretty, or looks nice TELL THEM! It will make you feel just

as good to give a compliment as they will feel to receive the compliment.



If you're being bullied on Facebook DELETE your account. It's YOUR facebook, you should be in

control of it.

Make your account

private, and only have a few close friends and family members.There's no law that says you

HAVE to

have a Twitter, Formspring, Facebook, ect. If your online account is something you fret having

to get on because

people are being mean then WHY have it?



Bullying is to such a horrible extreme that people are KILLING

 

THEMSELVES because of it.

I was bullied so bad when I was younger that I even considered the thought of hurting myself.

I assure you this isn't the right answer.


THINK before you say something to someone.

THINK about their feelings, and put yourself in their place as if what you're saying to them was

being said to you.

We need to be sticking together and be there for people, NOT pointing fingers and name

calling.

 

For those who suffer from bullies you have my full support.

Write me if you need someone to talk to, and if you feel like hurting yourself.

If you feel like no one cares, you're WRONG! Because I do.

It doesn't matter if you know me or not, everyone on this planet is family.


Written by Tabby Ridiman.

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#34 Hannah 2011-12-22 02:52
Tabby, this is a very useful message and I used to be bullied with name calling. I was labeled "Emo", "Scene", and "Goth" and it led me to thinking no one cared. I cut my wrists looking for peace but peace found me with harmony. I am praying for the day when you and I and he and she become we. Together we can sing Harmony. :-)
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#33 Danni 2011-12-10 16:57
I was bullied by the most popular girl in my grade because my dad [censored]d. She called me a loser and made fun of me because i went to therapy. (my mom made me go) every time i was near her she started talking about how great her dad was :cry:
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#32 Autumn 2011-11-29 23:25
:-) That is a really awesome thing of you to do.
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#31 Natalie 2011-11-06 22:37
:D Im so happy that there is SOMEONE out there who cares, thank you Tabby!
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#30 Madison 2011-11-04 17:39
I relate 110% omg. this made me have tears almost. im hurting everyday. and i HAVE hurt myself..its wrong. there is so much more to say but dunno how. please message/e-mail me! :D
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#29 Rosie 2011-11-04 00:14
Hey Tabby! I just wanted to thank you. You are such an inspiration and an amazing person. I first found your videos when I was bored and typed in I got a ferret, your video popped up :)I was so glad I clicked on in :) Ever since then I have been showing your links and videos to people in my school to try to get them to follow in your footsteps and to be themselves and to try not to care about what people think about them. Up until I saw your videos I felt like I was living a lie... like I wasn't myself. I have always known I'm different, well we all are, but I am different in a crazy, hyper, and somewhat amusing (to some people) way. I kept watching your videos and listening to your advice and I finally started to follow myself, to do and be who I wanted to be, I am me. Thank you so much, you have changed my life! You're truly a miracle :)
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#28 Faith 2011-11-01 15:44
i say if u r getting bullied, everyday to almost every day, than u r really loved by the bullies because they r taking time out of their life and day to focus on u. they just wish they were u. so don't let them think they r hurting u in any way, they must love u a lot. (but please don't get to conferrable with bullies!!!!)
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#27 Charlie 2011-10-31 20:07
bullies are sometimes the weak people who may have been bullied before or feel insicure so they try to hide it. there was a girl who bullied me for about 3 years and i was put in a room with her on a trip and she was really homesick and upset...
Just keep going whatever happens, you can get through it if u know how :) xx
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#26 Charlie 2011-10-31 20:04
@Gabby, i was just like you in the last few years of primary school, i was told that i didnt eat and that im was emo. Just because i wasnt the most popular person.
As tabby says you just have to show them that it doesnt bother you. bullies strive on seeing people upset and hurt so if you ignore them then they stop.
Hope your okay :) xxx
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#25 *Vladislav Plezhaev* 2011-10-31 07:29
Hi, Tabitha. Tell me, what is the meaning of what people write about their problems ... I understand people are "clear" his soul. But this (do not you think?) Does not seem to humiliation?

With respect to Tabby, Vladislav Polezhaev :)
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#24 Elizabeth 2011-10-30 05:42
Last month I lost one of my close friends because he got bullied for being homosexual. He was the sweetest, most loving boy in the world. But he couldn't deal with all of the hate, so he ended his life at17 years old. May he rest in piece not having to deal with all of the hate. It also breaks my heart. I used to feel like i was seriously imperfect, especially looking up to you. but i remember when you put this video out, and how much better I felt remembering that you are a person too, and that you have flaws too. flaws aren't always bad, and i enjoy that. I have crooked teeth, but they're not that bad. in fact, they have personality in a way. I used to be totally embarrassed about them. but now, I flaunt it, because I learned to enjoy all of my flaws. You gained my total respect after you made this. Love you Tabs.
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#23 Pickles 2011-10-30 04:30
You are such an amazing inspiration Tabby, your videos help thousands of people out there showing that it is okay to be yourself. Your beauty reflects from your inner love and happiness. It is so great to know that there are smart and stunning young women such as yourself to help guide so many people through these rough times. You are funny, classy and seem like a great person! Keep on doing what your doing!
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#22 Vladislav Polezhaev 2011-10-29 11:10
Fine words...
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#21 Teona 2011-10-28 20:50
i feel like that sometimes!
i cry my eyes out most of the time,
ive even tried hurting my self before:(
could i have some advice tabby?
but ive now kindof relised its not the awnser it doesnt get you anywhere,
and yess ive been called alot of things,
somtimes it really gets me down and i dont know what to do?
could you help?
thanks
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#20 Bob T 2011-10-28 20:34
Hey,
you really helped me though, a couple days/weeks ago I saw your advise telling someone to just sit in front of a mirror and look for pretty things in yourself, I did and I'm really starting to like my appearance, I'm also more confident and I'm just CRUISING through life now ^^.
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#19 Borro 2011-10-28 16:44
Remember, if you got haters, you must be doing something right! :P
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#18 Gabby 2011-10-28 10:09
Hey Tabby(:I've been bullied all last year in my new school.Im Lithuanian and I moved to England(London) I started go to new school and people start bullying me coz of my accent.I sound like American.After 1 year I still sound like American with strong Kentucky's or Chicago accent.This year I cut my hair in emo style.Everyone star bullying that im emo and i cut myself.well i dont.Im scene.Sometimes its realy hard when people calling you emo and they want to see you crying (coz im ''emo'' and they cry none stop). also im full of energy people start thinking that im drunk (hello im 13!) Also im skinny i mean like very skinny o.O People start talking that i dont eat!OMG!!Every single say in my new school is like a hell.But i try to ignore all the haters.And that's driving them crazy!But the point is after all year of bullying im smiling and im happy about my life.I think that everyone should smile.Because life is beautiful If you got the same problem my email:GabbyWant s2GetWild@gmail .com
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#17 Sara 2011-10-28 09:32
I'm crying. That was so beautiful. And i have been bullied too...i wish people could just stop bullying. It won't make anyone feel better person. If you bully someone, you are weak. A lot more weaker than the person you're bullying.
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#16 Rossi 2011-10-28 09:17
your so awesome.
Not every one is so like you. you are not arrogant and so.

Ps: you hair are petty :D
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#15 Joachim 2011-10-28 03:35
Thanks Tabby. You got a big tear in my eye. That text was just amazing.
Hugs
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#14 Celia 2011-10-28 01:19
:) You are so nice! :) I remember this video. it's fun watching you get older and nicer each day. :)
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#13 dirrN 2011-10-28 01:05
True love is not loving a perfect person but loving an imperfect person perfectly!! Wish u the best of luck tabs! =)
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#12 Daleen 2011-10-28 00:34
OMG I dont know what to say but its just the truth.
such amazing!
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#11 courtnee 2011-10-28 00:17
ohmygod. tabby i think i speak for everyone when i say you are truly amazing! this actually brought a tear to my eye, and i love how supportive you are! keep it up :)
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#10 Hollie 2011-10-27 22:40
:cry: Tabby that went straight to my heart.
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#9 Normandy 2011-10-27 22:06
I’m a very pessimistic/cynical person and have been since I was a teenager. What struck me most from the first time I saw one of your videos was your “authenticity”. This post and videos such as this is why I keep watching. You truly "walk the walk". I came for the humor but I stayed for the message. :-)
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#8 Tabsismyninsperation 2011-10-27 22:05
When I was younger I got bullied a ton this one kid used to push me down on the concrete and he would take his bike and ride the bike up my spine. I was helpless and too young to know anything but now ik that I should stick up for myself because I get called names and it makes me feel bad:(
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#7 Finonymous 2011-10-27 21:24
I've been bullied at school many years too, but I kind of think myself too important to hurt myself (I don't want to sound narcissistic when I say that). If I want to hurt someone, I hurt the bullies.

I know (but at the same time wonder) that there are many people who loves me. I don't want to brag about hurting people who hurt me or my loved ones, but that just feels necessary. My dad taught me not to turn another cheek, and I have followed that kind of pattern ever since.

Anyway, I'm against all kind of bullying since I've been through that myself. Bullies are weakminded people who has to raise their self-esteem. And sadly, in someones eyes they do.

I like to say nice things to my friends all the time. For example, if a girl from my class wears no makeup, I tell them how beautiful they look. It makes their day better and it's always nice to hear nice things. But I don't say it to be a suck up. (Was that phrase correct :D)
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#6 lux 2011-10-27 21:14
youre a good person c: thank you. i honestly got tears in my eyes o.o
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#5 Chewcata 2011-10-27 20:15
thats true !! im always saying to my friends, be happy with your life, and make the best of it. every life is unique and beautiful, but you have to make the best of it. the fortune dont came to you, you must find it.
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#4 Ellie 2011-10-27 20:05
:lol: This made my day, it made my week if I'm honest!! This is beautiful!! I'm speechless!!! :-) :-) :-)
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#3 Luisa 2011-10-27 19:28
this text is so beautiful tabby. its awesome how u give people the feeling that they are awesome and unique even though u didnt know them. texts like this make me strong if soemone says my hair is ugly or smt. thank u tabby! sry bout my english im from germany :p)
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#2 Manda 2011-10-27 18:56
Wow Tabby, That was the most amazing thing I've read all day (And I've been at school at day) Its made my day and brought a tear to my eye, thank you so much for posting that. You are the most amazing person around, you do awesome videos and are just all around amazing!!
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#1 Mary 2011-10-27 18:55
Wow...Just wow
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